The Marcolian Online

May 3, 2007

The Low Down On Love
Jessie Offenberger and Viktoria Jurkovic

Someone once said, “Love can be the best feeling in the world ... but it can also be the worst.” It seems that the Marietta College campus feels the same way. In surveying over 100 people, we’ve found some surprising results. It seems that no one “asks” out their peers anymore. Most friends gradually spend more time together, then have the “DTR” talk, or the “Defining The Relationship” talk.

We found that most students like the old-fashioned way of doing things. Girls, you’re not expected to ask guys out…just make your signals clearer. Guys, make sure your signs are clear as well. None of us are mind-readers! The majority of Pioneers think guys and girls can be friends…as most have a best friend of the opposite sex. However, they don’t use these friends as one with benefits. Almost everyone agreed that it is a bad decision that only confuses and hurts those involved. But if a relationship doesn’t go as well as planned, depending on the situation, nearly all students believe exes can be friends.

It split halfway on whether fashion really matters. Guys like to see girls dress sexily every once in a while to mix things up, but they are completely fine with us being comfy in our clothing. Girls dig guys that are clean cut and actually think about what they put on in the morning. And forget about Internet dating; Facebook and MySpace are viewed as a breeding ground for Internet perverts and not for relationships.

Whether single or attached, all students agree that love can be very confusing. However, even Mr. or Ms. Independent can take the time to realize that love does exist even on the Marietta College campus!

Girls- How do you want to be asked out by a guy?

“Tell us how you really feel and then just ask. Don’t beat around the bush or be scared. We like it when a guy knows what he wants.”

Is it too taboo for girls to ask out guys? Suggestions on how to do it?

“I think it’s stupid for girls to put themselves out there like that, but for some reason society has switched and guys are too shy to ask out girls like they’re supposed to.”

Can guys and girls be “best friends”?

“Yes, one of my best friends is a guy, it might be hard to keep that barrier there, but as I always say, if you can’t get someone out of your mind, maybe they’re supposed to be there.”

Can friends with benefits REALLY work?

“Sure, with college’s hectic schedule, full-on relationships may not be possible for either party.”

Can Ex’s be friends?

“In my experience, I am still friends with EX’s, but it took a little work to get there and some time completely apart before it worked.”

Guys....What kind of fashion do you like to see on girls?

“I like a girl that can get dolled up and be stunning but wear sweats and still feel beautiful.”

Girls.....What kind of fashion do you like to see on guys?

“I’m not picky, so I’ll just say the things I loathe: popped collars, loafers, flashy jewelry and pants that sag so bad they are below their butt!

Does it really matter what the opposite sex wears?

“Not really, it’s all going to end up on the floor anyway.”

Is it safe to find someone to date over Myspace/Facebook? Is it possible?

“Probably not that safe. There are a lot of weirdos out there. I don’t think it’s really possible. You need a real life connection, not just a picture and a sentence.”

Battle of the sexes
Joe Webb

How do Marietta College students really feel about the opposite sex?

How different is the opposite sex? Do men and women think the same? After passing out several surveys to the men and women at Marietta College, I came up with a good perspective on how men and women feel about each other. Here is what you had to say.

Do you believe men and women can be best friends?

Men- No
Women- Yes

What type of men do you find attractive?

Men-Classy but little clothing
Women-Clean cut/business look

Do you believe the man should approach the women first?

Men-Yes
Women- Yes

Do you believe men are different when talking to them over the computer, Facebook, aim, etc.?

Men- Yes
Women- Yes

Do you believe men are shy when it comes to conversation and expressing their true feelings?

Men- No
Women- No


• Campus News • Viewpoints • Sports • Arts & Living • Greek wrap-up • Ask Marc • Spotlight • New faces at MC • Meet our staff • Staff profiles • Letters to the editor policy • History of the newspaper • Benefits of advertising • Ad rates		May 3, 2007 The Low Down On Love Jessie Offenberger and Viktoria Jurkovic Someone once said, “Love can be the best feeling in the world ... but it can also be the worst.” It seems that the Marietta College campus feels the same way. In surveying over 100 people, we’ve found some surprising results. It seems that no one “asks” out their peers anymore. Most friends gradually spend more time together, then have the “DTR” talk, or the “Defining The Relationship” talk. We found that most students like the old-fashioned way of doing things. Girls, you’re not expected to ask guys out…just make your signals clearer. Guys, make sure your signs are clear as well. None of us are mind-readers! The majority of Pioneers think guys and girls can be friends…as most have a best friend of the opposite sex. However, they don’t use these friends as one with benefits. Almost everyone agreed that it is a bad decision that only confuses and hurts those involved. But if a relationship doesn’t go as well as planned, depending on the situation, nearly all students believe exes can be friends. It split halfway on whether fashion really matters. Guys like to see girls dress sexily every once in a while to mix things up, but they are completely fine with us being comfy in our clothing. Girls dig guys that are clean cut and actually think about what they put on in the morning. And forget about Internet dating; Facebook and MySpace are viewed as a breeding ground for Internet perverts and not for relationships. Whether single or attached, all students agree that love can be very confusing. However, even Mr. or Ms. Independent can take the time to realize that love does exist even on the Marietta College campus! Girls- How do you want to be asked out by a guy? “Tell us how you really feel and then just ask. Don’t beat around the bush or be scared. We like it when a guy knows what he wants.” Is it too taboo for girls to ask out guys? Suggestions on how to do it? “I think it’s stupid for girls to put themselves out there like that, but for some reason society has switched and guys are too shy to ask out girls like they’re supposed to.” Can guys and girls be “best friends”? “Yes, one of my best friends is a guy, it might be hard to keep that barrier there, but as I always say, if you can’t get someone out of your mind, maybe they’re supposed to be there.” Can friends with benefits REALLY work? “Sure, with college’s hectic schedule, full-on relationships may not be possible for either party.” Can Ex’s be friends? “In my experience, I am still friends with EX’s, but it took a little work to get there and some time completely apart before it worked.” Guys....What kind of fashion do you like to see on girls? “I like a girl that can get dolled up and be stunning but wear sweats and still feel beautiful.” Girls.....What kind of fashion do you like to see on guys? “I’m not picky, so I’ll just say the things I loathe: popped collars, loafers, flashy jewelry and pants that sag so bad they are below their butt! Does it really matter what the opposite sex wears? “Not really, it’s all going to end up on the floor anyway.” Is it safe to find someone to date over Myspace/Facebook? Is it possible? “Probably not that safe. There are a lot of weirdos out there. I don’t think it’s really possible. You need a real life connection, not just a picture and a sentence.” Battle of the sexes Joe Webb How do Marietta College students really feel about the opposite sex? How different is the opposite sex? Do men and women think the same? After passing out several surveys to the men and women at Marietta College, I came up with a good perspective on how men and women feel about each other. Here is what you had to say. Do you believe men and women can be best friends? Men- No Women- Yes What type of men do you find attractive? Men-Classy but little clothing Women-Clean cut/business look Do you believe the man should approach the women first? Men-Yes Women- Yes Do you believe men are different when talking to them over the computer, Facebook, aim, etc.? Men- Yes Women- Yes Do you believe men are shy when it comes to conversation and expressing their true feelings? Men- No Women- No
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